- "We" are not monolithic: do not all walk the same path and live the same life.
- "Our" stories are not something for you to fetishize and exoticize.
- "We" are not helpless objects for you to (hyper)sexualize and prey upon with your colonial gazes.
- "We" do not need your saving: you will not turn us into your latest causes célèbres.
- Non-heteronormative Muslims are not the (new) measuring stick by which you judge weather or not cultures/societies/countries/religious traditions are deemed as ‘modern/civilized/1st world’!
- "We" are not ‘progressive/forward thinking/open-minded’ for identifying within your accepted categories of LGBTQI.
- Nor are “We” ‘medieval/backwards’ for identifying with our various religious traditions!
- "Our" agentivity is not yours to gauge: the multiplicity of ways chosen to live our lives (emancipation from region/family/religion/culture OR NOT!) are all equally valid… regardless of whether they measure up to your expectations.
- Enough with the tired clichés around the veil/unveiling/lifting the veil, kabab/kebab, sultan-harem, etc. imagery. It’s void of meaning, offensive and orientalist.
- The concept of “Coming Out” and its veneration is firmly based within a framework of a society that values individuation, not all societies do (i.e. check your privilege!)Thanks to Kawlture for brainstorming with me… This is a work in progress.
Anonymous asked: Hey, I am a gay girl born into a Muslim family. The only time I was ever "religious" was as a kid when I was first learning about Islam. Growing up, I went through a lot and started losing faith. Now I feel like I cannot go back to the religion even if I wanted to because of my sexuality. I will never be accepted. I also feel like Islam prioritizes men and as a feminist that goes against what I believe in. Is there still room for me in this religion or should I start searching for another faith?
Hey so I crowdsourced a lot of this answer: [updating as I get more suggestions and resources]
Personally, I couldn’t be a Muslim and follow Islam if I didn’t find it feminist, full of social justice and intersectional. Unfortunately patriarchy and self interest tries to pass itself off as moralistic and religious —this is universal. Also it’s helpful to keep in mind that if any authority tries to tell you to hate and discriminate know that it isn’t from God or any moral compass—but fear.
O you who have attained to faith! Be ever steadfast in upholding equity, bearing witness to the truth for the sake of God, even though it be against your own selves or your parents and kinsfolk. Whether the person concerned be rich or poor, God’s claim takes precedence over [the claims of] either of them. Do not, then, follow your own desires, lest you swerve from justice: for if you distort [the truth], behold, God is indeed aware of all that you do!
- The Holy Qur’an [4:135]
I believe the Prophet Muhammad [saw] was a radical-feminist-environmental anti-racist community organizer, activist and freedom fighter that believed in freeing people from the status quo and freeing them from oppression through Islam and Allah [swt]. And I believe in following that tradition.
“Truly, God does not change the condition of a people until they change what is in themselves.” (Quran 13:11)
I believe it was Aisha [ra] that had a close friend that was a hijra and didn’t wear a hijab, or covering around them. There was plenty of queer people in and around the Prophet Muhammad’s [s] life time.
I could name-drop Sufi saints and poets from various times and places who violated norms of gender and sexuality on one level or another. Ali ibn Hamzah al-Asadi, more widely known as al-Kisa’i al-Kufi (d.804). As the transmitter of one of the Qur’an’s seven harfs (“readings”) in Sunni tradition, he’s an immeasurably important figure in the history of the Qur’an as a text. As such, his knowledge and character were both under close examination. In one assessment, al-Marzubani, speaking on the authority Ibn al-Arabi (the jurist, not the mystic), described al-Kisa’i as “one of the most learned persons” while adding that al-Kisa’i openly confessed to engaging in acts that included same-sex relations. “Yet,” he adds, al-Kisa’i remained “an accurate reader, knowledgeable in the Arabic language, and honest.”
This does not answer all questions, but it offers something. In Sunni Islam, there are seven canonical ways of reading the Qur’an. Al-Kisa’i al-Kufi is the man who gave us one of them. He devoted his life to knowing and teaching the Qur’an. It should go without saying that al-Kisa’i al-Kufi memorized the entire scripture by heart and recited it every day of his life. Along the way, he apparently fucked dudes. The lips that he used to recite divine scripture also touched men.
““O people, we created you all from a male and female
And made you into different communities and different tribes
So that you should come to know one another
Acknowledging that the most noble among you
Is the one most aware of God
The most noble is the one most aware of God. This is not just incitement for all Muslims to increase their awareness of God – it is also a warning to pursue a policy of social tolerance. The implication of this verse is that no Muslim is better than another because of any of the social categories that we use to classify ourselves, such as race, ethnicity, economic class, or gender. Or even sexual orientation. A gay or lesbian Muslim is no less than a heterosexual Muslim, except by the intangible criterion of pious awareness of God (taqwa). A transgender
Muslim is no less than other Muslims who have not struggled with their own gender identity and faced the stigma of changing gender classification, except by awareness of God.
Most Muslims cherish reciting this verse to oppose the evils of racial superiority, ethnic chauvinism, and class arrogance. Yet some see this verse as a call to justice that rings far beyond its terse words.”
— Scott Siraj al-Haqq Kugle, HOMOSEXUALITY IN ISLAM
El-Farouk Khaki, the founder of Salaam [a queer Muslim organization in Canada] says: you can connect her w me, or with Daayiee Abdullah. my email is firstname.lastname@example.org she can also join https://www.facebook.com/groups/99769188589/ el-Tawhid Juma Circle: Toronto Unity Mosque & learn that there is no singular, monolith Islam, and that for some, Islam is liberationary.
EFK and the rest of the leaders at el-Tawhid Juma Circle: Toronto Unity Mosque page make a point of emphasising the spiritual aspects of Islam and reducing focus on external elements. el-Tawhid Juma Circle: Toronto Unity Mosque group - wholly affirming and inclusive, with a focus on the spiritual and not so much the ritual.
Imam Daayiee Abdullah contact [the gay Imam in DC] (email@example.com).
There’s also an Imam in Canada, TO who I know is pro-feminist, cool with gay Muslims and he asked me to give you his number if you would like it.
Some points1) If you believe that God created you the way are, you can’t possible believe that God would reject you2) The community you grew up in does not necessarily represent Islam3) The beauty of Islam is that there is no intercession between you and God. You has every right and ability to pick up the Quran and find out what it means to you.4) If you find things you can’t reconcile, you should speak to others who have found themselves in a similar situation.5) thefatalfeminist.com is a great starting point and introduction to feminism, Islam and social justice.6) Islam does not prioritize men over women, the patriarchal actualization of Islam as seen through socially constructed norms prioritizes men over women, but that is a product of kyriarchy more than anything. If you want your faith to prioritize women, then do it.7) Hit up Scott Kugle at Emory who could give you some nice readings and independent studies for Lesbianism or Queer identities and Islam.
This post pretty much came about because I was asked if I had resources for Muslims who were discovering or newly coming to terms with their sexuality. I didn’t, and the poor advice I had to offer was … poor. So, I pulled up a few of the blogs I followed that are targeted towards queer Muslims, and put together this little post for you!
Queer Muslim Blogs:
- ComingOutMuslim (check out their project here: [x])
- InQueeries channel with Yusef Woof (contact firstname.lastname@example.org)
- Salaam Canada
- Muslims Against Homophobia and LGBT Hate facebook group
Queer Muslim 101:
- A quick gender/sexuality 101
- Defining homonationalism and pinkwashing.
- PDF:Homosexuality In Islam, by Scott Siraj al-Haqq Kugle (Intro + 1st Chap) Buy your own copy!
- PDF:Muslim LGBT Inclusion Project, by Intersections International
- Why Safe Spaces are Important
- “I’m confused about my sexuality.”
- “I need proof from Qur’an and Sunnah that I’m not Haraam.”
- “What about the Qur’an and Hadith that chastise LGBT*Q Muslims?”
- Some hadiths can be read in different ways, so it’s best to look at the outcome.
- “Islam and LGBT* are not mutually exclusive.”
- “But I was taught Islam was the most heterosexist religion.” [tw: continuously moving background at the link]
- “But all Muslims are homophobic!” (spoiler alert: you’re wrong.)
- “But Muslims hate sex - it’s ~dirty~ to them!” (I would recommend this class for basic 101 on marriage and love [sex] in Islam. Take it with Basyouni.) (See also: x and x)
- “Love the sinner, hate the sin, and why that’s bullshit.”
- “Should I come out?” (spoiler alert: that’s up to you!)
- “Is there a place for LGBT*Q Muslims?” (Or “There’s no place for LGBT*Q Muslims/no organisations/no hope.”)
- “Will LGBT*Q Muslims go to hell?” (spoiler alert: I’m not God, how would I know?)
- “But it’s unnatural!” (lolk)
- “There aren’t any gay Imams or Sheikhs, so you’re just making things up!” (Also here.)
- “But no fatwa was made!” (It’s Wahabi.)
- A post about other Sheikhs’ opinions.
- “But there are no inclusive mosques for LGBT* Muslims!” (Just stop.)
- There is no place for homophobia in Islam.
- Let’s repeat that: There is no place for homophobia in Islam.
- Ayahs that talk about Prophet Lut.
- A closer reading of ayahs re: homosexuality (prev here but no longer).
- See also: You decide how you interpret your religion.
- Homosexuality in Sharia
- Homosexuality in Predominately Muslim Countries
- Predominately Muslim Countries who are taking steps toward equality. [x]
- Same-sex marriage
- Queer Muslim Cinema: Azizah, Illuminations, Coming Out Muslim, A Jihad For Love, I Exist, Coming Out Muslim: Radical Acts of Love, Al-Nisa [BONUS: Show Al-Nisa and Red Summer (the producer) some love!], Out in the Dark (Palestinian and Israeli fall in love. facebook page).
- Queer Muslim Literature: [x] [x] [Gaylaxy magazine] [Bareed Mista3jil] [Totally Radical Muslims Zine]
- Desi LGBT*Q Hotline
- Queer Pakistan LGBT*Q Voice and Support Group [and here is a news article]
A good thing to remember is to avoid the self-hatred phase, if you can. Focus on loving yourself, and realising that Allah made you just the way you are, and that you are loved. If this phase is unavoidable, here are some helpful sites:
- Help! I’m losing my Islam
- Feeling suicidal?
- Suicide prevention
- Supporting someone who self-harms
- Suicide and Crisis Hotlines
- Online Crisis Network (for those with anxiety which prevents them from talking on the phone)
If you are from Indonesia, Pakistan, Bangladesh, or India and want to share your experiences (anonymously), please click here.
If you can spare some funds, help navigatethestream, a queer Muslim, become an Imam to help the Muslim LGBT* community!
(If you’d like to be added to or taken off this list, please send me an ask.)
- casketofpearlsMore papers/books not previously mentioned:-BEYOND BINARY BARZAKHS: USING THE THEME OF LIMINALITY IN ISLAMIC THOUGHT TO QUESTION THE GENDER BINARY by Sara Haq Hussaini
AWESOME RESOURCE POST!!!
Rebageling for @microkrill!! This was the post I was telling you about at dinner the other day— showed up on my dash again because my dash loves me!
Taken from an article from the lds website:
“… Sometimes we have to have the courage to turn from these [cultural] practices and to the teachings of the gospel of Jesus Christ”
whaaaat D: in anthropology, we don’t really take kindly to missionaries because they impose a culture onto indigenous people. But I’m also taught that culture isn’t static, it evolves and changes over time, and you have to be aware if you’re exoticising a cultural practice that people don’t do anymore.
It’s really hard for me to learn about mormon beliefs objectively though, because stuff like this affects me personally. For example, I identify as chinese or singaporean first, and my religious beliefs second. If a religious authority says that I can’t do something that I’ve always done with my family growing up, I’d be really offended and hurt. It’s like if your family celebrates everyone’s birthdays by buying a cake and singing ‘happy birthday’, and then you’re told you can’t do that anymore, when you’ve been doing it for ages, and it’s a family thing, and you have fond memories of this ritual, you’d be angry. So I’d be mad if someone said I couldn’t celebrate chinese new year anymore because I’d be “more blessed”, I’d go ‘fuck your god; I don’t care for his blessings, this celebration makes me happy, I didn’t suffer 5 hour road trips to malaysia for years for nothing, this reminds me of the times when my grandaunts were healthier and my grandparents had a sounder mind, and I was a kid who felt part of a really large extended family where everyone was nice to me and wanted to play with me, and I got to eat all the food and sweets I wanted.’
…I have issues.
“In nine hundred years of time and space, I’ve never met anybody who wasn’t important before”
Coping is really difficult in this life. Especially for a girl who was never taught ways to cope with things. Then college comes. You think you’re independent, have a car note, buy your own gas, pay your apartment rent. And then your anchor, who has been there for four years, leaves. And everything that was hard before like money issues, depression, staying on top of schoolwork, becomes 20,000 times harder than it was before.
I can’t be mormon because I want to be a cam girl ok
samilarities said: I have wanted to get into camming for awhile but have no idea where to start omg
I don’t know either! I just googled and apparently the recommended sites for beginners are jasmin, streammate.com, webcams.com, streamray.com. The one I was just on was chaturbate, but then they banned me when someone reported me because I look <18, and I wasn’t age-verified. So. I have to find something else. I guess get age-verified before they ban you? The people on there were quite nice, though. There were a couple who helped me when I had questions about the site, if anything it’s nice to chat. People can ‘follow’ you too.
I have a few friends in london who cam sometimes, and they have personas and stuff xD I might ask them which sites they use.
just tried camming, didn’t even take my clothes off, and it’s so addictive. Guess I’m an attention whore. I want to be a tumblr girl, and have my own amazon wishlist! which means I need to learn how to code. On cam I’m in ~punter mode~ and it feels so good to be able to be mean :P
I don’t even have to have makeup on or slutty clothes and people will still watch me?? I can do whatever I want.
props to whoever made this! :D it is glorious. I was lucky enough to catch that moment on their livestream.